How do you deal with mixed signals in a relationship?
See signs, examples, and dating advice on what to do, according to experts.
Are they really just busy, or are they sending mixed signals?
And how do you know the difference?
Karen Stewart, PsyD, a sex and relationship therapist.
[They] take the fun out of getting to know someone.
licensed clinical psychologist
What are mixed signals?
From a dating perspective, this might mean your date is saying one thing, but doing another.
And sometimes, the person sending mixed signals might not know what theyre after, either.
They might be unsure about their own feelings or what they want from the relationship, saysDr.
Adrianna Holness, PhD, a licensed clinical psychologist.
Maybe theyre enjoying your company but are hesitant to commit.
So lets untangle it further.
What do mixed signals mean?
Mixed signals can be an over-correction from a past relationship that didnt go well, posits Dr. Stewart.
licensed clinical psychologist
A persons decision-making style can also be a contributing factor.
Both those with avoidant attachment and disorganized attachment are more likely to demonstrate mixed signals overall.
Erika Bach, PsyD, licensed clinical psychologist.
And the more fearful they were, the more likely they were to stay single over the long term.
It might be best to end the relationship and jump back into the dating pool.
What are mixed signals from a guy?
Id love to meet your parents…just not now.
Im not sure what I want.
Scenario two: after three months of dating, youve gathered enough courage to have the what are we?
What are mixed signals from a girl?
Im dating a few people right now.
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Lets just see how things go.
Sometimes shes right on time, but she often shows up late and doesnt even apologize.
Open discussions can be clarifying for both partners and build a strong foundation with which to move forward.
Did it bring up some feelings for you that youd like to talk about?)
If it is, therelationship is worth saving.
Also, remember to speak from the heart, but try not to pass judgment.
Do your best to avoid blaming-key in statements, Dr. Stewart continues.
Instead, speak from your experience.
We discussed making plans for our future, then you discussed dating casually.
Could you help me understand this?
Once youve posed the question, pay attention to your partners answers.
Mixed signals are the master language ofgaslightersand players in the dating world, warns Dr. Stewart.
Over dinner, you could say something like, Im looking for a long-term relationship.
Were they grateful for your honesty?
Did they provide clarity?
Or are you left feeling even more upset and confused?
You might say, I need more consistent communication to feel secure in this relationship.
If your partner cannot abide by your boundaries, this may not be the right partner for you.
But resist the urge to second-guess yourself, says Dr. Bach.
Whether mixed signals are being sent intentionally or unintentionally, they can still be exhausting and hurtful.
You deserve clear, open, and honest communication, and you dont need to settle for less.
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