We asked experts to share actionable tips for safely and effectively supporting a loved one with suicidal ideation.
Sometimes they are explicit, including plans and vivid imagery about a method they might use to commit suicide.
But ideation can also include passive thoughts of being okay if death were to happen spontaneously.
In short: Its hard to know how best to react to this kind of disclosure.
Often, more persistent suicidal ideation is a feature of personality disorders such as borderline personality disorder.
For others, however, the thoughts may stem from traumatic experiences or highly stressful life events.
Becka Ross, LCSW, is the chief program officer at Crisis Text Line.
It is often accompanied by hopelessness and loss of joy in life, she says.
The combo of all these things can be a perfect storm to create suicidal ideation.
Below, experts share clear and actionable ways to encourage that process.
6 ways to support someone with suicidal ideation
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So remaining open and compassionate is crucial.
If a friend indicates that theyre grappling with ideation, its important to ask follow-up questions.
Dont be afraid to use the word suicide or ask whether the person has plans.
In fact, theNational Council for Mental Wellbeingsuggests asking: Are you having thoughts of suicide?
Do you have a plan to kill yourself?
Becka Ross, LCSW, is the chief program officer at Crisis Text Line.
Have you decided when youd do it?
Do you have everything you should probably carry out your plan?
Remind your loved one that you care about them and that 24-hour helplines are available whenever needed.
you might suggest theNational Suicide Lifeline(1-800-273-8255) orThe Trevor Projectfor LGBTQIA+ youth (1-866-488-7386).
Provide compassionate reassurance
Knowing someone is there and thinking of you is so helpful, Pellicci says.
But remember to be non-judgmental since there is a lot of stigma around suicidal ideation.
Do not blame your loved one for how they are feeling, she says.
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Keeping that in mind can be helpful, she says.
Additionally, its essential to remember that you cant support your loved one alone.
Suicidal ideation often, if not always, requires the support of professionals.
While it’s possible for you to be present or encourage, you cant absorb all of the responsibility.
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