Dating someone with erectile dysfunction can complicate your sex life.
Here, sex educators share seven tips for still getting your needs met.
Rest assured, youre not alone in that predicament.
And contrary to popular belief, itcan affect people of all ages.
As a first order of business, though, verify your partner with ED is medically safe.
Otherwise, reframing your mindset and approach to sex can go a long way toward finding sexual satisfaction.
sex coach and clinical sexologist for Royal
Otherwise, worrying about lack of pleasure might well become a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Talk to your partner
Have you and your partner talked about their erectile dysfunction?
If not, its time to chat.
In fact, if you do, you could be waiting quite a long time.
It could be really difficult for them to bring it up, she says.
While youre on a walk or over coffee would both work well, for two examples.
As forhowto bring it up?
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Heres one example:I love the way you feel when youre inside me.
sex coach and clinical sexologist for Royal
Is there anything we might give a shot to help you maintain your erection?
But I just wanted to see if we could find a way to work around it together.
They can guide the discussion in a sensitive way, while also validating both of your needs and feelings.
You might introduce the idea by saying:I really want to figure this out with you.
How would you feel about that?
Dont limit the activities in the second list to things that involve mouths, genitals, and bums.
Instead, allow yourself to include things like:Snuggling in a bathormassaging your feet, and so on.
But often there are other reasons at play, too, says Deysach.
There are plenty of toys that can take the place of an erection, says Neal.
The most obvious choices are dildos and hollow dildos, which are sometimes called penis sleeves or penis extenders.
(Yes, really.)
As Neal puts it, as far as sex toys go, the only limit is your creativity.
Try not to stress
No doubt, this is easier said than done for all parties involved.
But if you’re free to, venture to limit stress around the erection, says Neal.
Stress and pressure can actually make ED much worse, she says.
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