Want To Transform Your Outdoor Space into a Calming, Boho-Chic Escape (Um, Yes)?

One kink-forward strategy to consider for heating things up?

Wax play, which involves the sensual dripping of candles onto the body.

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Read on to learn more about what wax play entails and how you’re able to safely participate.

The sensation of feeling something warm on the skinand the visual of watching the slow dripcan activate your arousal.

The elements of pain and anticipation arefacets of BDSMthat both beginners and more advanced kinksters might enjoy.

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sex educator and founder of Sssh.com

Ultimately, theres no universal reason why someone might enjoy playing with wax during sex.

Once the oil is on the body, you or your partner can use it to facilitate massage.

Wax play can happen at any point during sex, too.

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Looking for somemasturbation ideas?

Tease yourself with warm wax by dripping it on your body in sensual patterns during solo play.

In terms of where to put it?

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Is it safe to play with wax?

Never use a candle that isnt intended for wax play in the bedroom.

Additionally, they may contain scents or ingredients that will irritate the skin.

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sex educator and founder of Sssh.com

To avoid this, try doing a patch test on the skin before getting wax all over.

Avoid oil-based lubes during wax play because many of them are flammable, too.

When youre done, check that to dispose of spent matches and candles properly.

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Dr. Queen says you’ve got the option to throw peeled-off wax in the trash.

Have some water to drink, along with hugs and cuddles, she says.

Seeking out some training and tips for how to do wax play can be helpful before you begin.

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Look for sex and kink educators who offer wax play tutorials and classes if youre curious.

They come from soybeans and are less likely to irritate the skin.

Dr. Queen particularly recommends paraffin candles.

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For massage candles, look for blends of oils and candles labeled specifically for massage use.

In other words: Dont take a stab at cut corners by repurposing your old birthday candles.

As for which body-safe wax types to avoid?

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Theyll typically contain moisturizing and nourishing ingredients like jojoba oil or shea butter.

As for which key in is better?

Thats entirely up to you and the goals of your wax play session.

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Below, check out a few select options to buy, no matter what youre looking for.

Products To Use During Wax Play Sessions

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An Intro-Level Massage Candle

Maude, Burn No.

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It comes in three sophisticated scent combinations.

The containers pitcher shape and spout make pouring with precision a breeze.

Its made from a blend of hemp oil and soy, which has a long burn time.

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Play vouches for these easy-pour pitcher candles by Agreeable Agony, which incorporate a visual element.

5 tips to turn up the heat during wax play

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Talk about all aspects of the scene and how itll play out, and come up with safe words.

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For this reason, Dr. Queen recommends sticking to areas that have smooth, hairless skin.

She suggests opting for low-melt waxes or applying oil to the skin first.

The important thing to note is the height from which you are dripping it on the body.

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Incorporate blindfolds and bondage

To take things up a notch, Dr. Queen suggests incorporating a blindfold or bondage.

A blindfold is a great companion [because] it heightens the emotional responses of anticipation, she says.

The bondage itself evokes that power differential that many people love, she adds.

Practice proper aftercare

Aftercare at the end of you wax play session is important.

Aftercare also includes making sure your partner feels comfortable after wax play.

Frequently Asked Questions About Wax Play

Does hot wax hurt?

For some people in a BDSM dynamic, a lack of comfort is part of the appeal.

How exactly waxfeelsreally depends on the wax you use.

How do you remove wax from wax play?

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