New to non-monogamy, or looking to change things up?
Here’s what to know about a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” relationship structure.
But what does a DADT relationship look like exactly?
And can it work?
How little (or much) the individuals in the relationship ask and tell also varies among DADT relationships.
Is DADT a form of non-monogamy?
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Ifnoteveryone is consenting to the DADT situation, then that would be cheating, says Wright.
Cheating, she explains, is about breaking a relationship agreement.
But there are many (many!)
ways for folks to set up their DADT relationship thatdontinvolve lying, says Francis.
But in actuality, its possible to be honest with your partner(s) without sharing absolutely everything.
For instance: Do you volunteer all your financial activity to your partner?
Do you share with them the details of your conversations with your friends?
Do you talk about your bowel movements?
Still, if youre considering the structure for yourself, certain potential issues are worth acknowledging.
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Without these built-in separations, youre more likely to fall into the pitfalls of lying, he says.
Given the nature of the arrangement, DADT can offer particular challenges when a boundary is broken.
(More on this in a sec!)
A Dont Ask, Dont Tell relationshipcanworkheres how to tell if its for you
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Start by analyzing your current relationship, she says, assuming youre in one.
Think about your communication skills
Next, noodle on your comfortability communicating with your boo.
Or, maybe its because you dont trust yourself to tactfully share about your other bonds with your boo?
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