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The state of our emotional health, especially our chief relationship, is no exception.
Enter the relationship audit, a check-in to evaluate your relationships strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement.
Basically, a progress report about where your relationship currently stands.
And, as we all know, problems dont tend to magically go away.
Relationship audits dont need to be overly complicated.
international psychologist, therapist, and adjunct professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology
As Albers says, timing is everything.
Youll want to pick a time that works for both of your schedules.
Ideally, you should choose a time that isnt followed by a stressful event.
Your first thought might be to sit across from each other and start chatting.
But you may want to avoid this positioning.
Do something where youre side-by-side because looking at someone head-on can feel confrontational, Le Goy suggests.
For instance, walking around the neighborhood might be a better strategy.
You dont necessarily need to do any prep work before the meeting.
But if you have a hard time staying focused during important conversations (guilty!
international psychologist, therapist, and adjunct professor at the Chicago School of Professional Psychology
), it may be helpful to jot down what you want to discuss beforehand.
What should you talk about?
For instance, if youre really enjoying the dates your partner is planning, tell them that.
Nobody wins when a conversation begins on a defensive note.
The two hardest topics for couples to talk about are finances and sex, notes Albers.
Whatever the issue, this is the exact time to bring it up.
You and your partner should leave the conversation with an understanding of how youll address each others concerns.
Its important to have a sense of humor, says Albers.
How often should I do this?
If youre still skeptical, know this: These conversations may indeed feelreallyuncomfortable in the beginning, says Albers.
However, in the end, these questions youre [discussing] do deepen intimacy.
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