At the very beginning, perhaps they showered you with compliments or over-the-top romantic gestures.
Sounds kind of exciting, right?
Unfortunately, thats not always the case, as these can all be signs of love bombing in action.
What could be so bad about some extravagant affection, flattery, gifts, and praise?
Isnt that justhealthy early relationship behavior?
What is love bombing?
life coach, trauma practitioner, and co-founder and CEO ofGrow Together, a coaching platform for new parents
Aaron Steinberg, MA, PCC, relationship coach
But those romantic gestures come with a price.
Love bombers view gift-giving as an exchange, meaning they give to get, says therapistMallory Grimste, LCSW.
Why is love bombing dangerous?
Quid pro quo is the manipulators mantra, says licensed psychotherapistMichele Paiva, PhD.
Teasing, rude, and sometimes derogatory nicknames will become more common, especially when youre in private.
in an effort to paint you as an ungrateful partner.
(After all, narcissistic folks can be extremely charming when they want to be.)
9 signs youre being love bombed
1.
You start to become molded into what they want and what they need, Dr. Paiva says.
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3.
They are showing everyone concrete proof that youre into them, says Dr. Paiva.
But its all just to get you to think youneedthem.
Theyll make you believe that you are responsible for their poor boundaries or behaviors, says Grimste.
They expect you to provide them with constant validation
Remember the love bombers affinity for quid pro quo?
reacted emotionally, leaving you to tread very lightly moving forward.
How does love bombing differ from genuine affection?
In those cases, the heavy doses of affection are likely genuine in nature.
Can you experience love bombing in a long-term relationship?
Being aware of the signs of love bombing can help you get out of the relationship sooner than later.
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