From my lived experience, it is especially difficult when you are already in a monogamous marriage.
When I met my husband in 2017, I had been operating on the assumption that I was heterosexual.
I had been conditioned to believe that being bi meant a life of promiscuity and confusion.
There was no way I could be bisexual while married to a man, I was told.
The stigma surrounding bisexuality made it that much harder to come out and live my truth publicly.
I believed that I had to choose my marriage or my sexuality.
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Are you going to leave him to be gay?
In some ways, my bisexual journey mirrored thestages of grief.
As I embraced my bisexuality, I came to accept it as an integral part of my identity.
I refused to believe that I couldnt be happily married while exploring it.
Who you are attracted to and who you have sex with are not the only parts of ones sexuality.
These harmful stereotypes are so systemic that itaffects our health and employment.
Self-acceptance bloomed from redefining and reframing my sexuality.
I romanticized my story, and it was both healing and empowering.
I started talking about it more often with friends and family.
Sexually, I allowed myself to fantasize about having sex with women.
I leftshamein the past.
This energy also brought my husband and I closer.
Knowing he accepted me in my entirety ultimately strengthened our intimacy and sex life.
I also started getting more involved in the community.
I volunteered withLGBTQ+ organizations, attended pride rallies, and started to sharemy bisexual journey on social media.
It was a wonderful surprise to find that I wasnt alone.
Many people like me had come out as bisexual in their adulthood or during the course of a relationship.
I also learned that there is no blueprint for how to be bisexual.
Different people express their sexuality differently.
There is no one way to be queer in a relationship.
Our love is just one example of its infinite possibilities.
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