So I kept a log.
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That moment was the first thing I jotted down after seeing a TikTok about the idea of glimmers.
The burgeoning concept was basically the emotional, physical opposite of feeling triggered.
It got me thinking.
What is the opposite of fear?
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Could safe be a feeling?
All you better do is let it happen to you.
Dr. Lam adds that our overall mental health depends on the relative ratio of glimmers to triggers.
There are definitely psychological benefits to logging positive experiences like glimmers.
But when I thought about it more, those things are scary and beautiful.
This glimmer came in the form of two small ceramic spice jars shaped like tiny houses.
One had yellow painted bricks, a blue roof, and a small pink door.
Here is almost a decade of trying to find the right balance.
The difference between logging my glimmers anda gratitude listwas the fact of knowing what my triggers were.
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Glimmers cant protect me from moving through the world.
In a way, my brain has a list of triggers going.
The exercise started to have a unique ability to expand my perception of moving through the world.
I could acknowledge things that were challenging, and lean on these Glimmers as reminders of the good.
Lam says that your brain is good at finding what its looking for.
Without a place to hide, somehow I was much moreme.
I had done the thing I always fearedand I was happier.
After waking up in her bed, I gazed upon the skyline of Brooklyn.
It looked as though overnight, it had been dusted with flour from a sifter.
She stood over me with a bitter cold brew made exactly how I liked it.
I am glad you stayed over, she said.
It takes trust to say that a moment makes me feel safe.
That it makes me believe that I didnt deserve the bad things that happened to me.
At this moment, I couldnt possibly love myself any more.
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