Kendrick Lamar was definitely on to something.
Let go and move on.
Take the high road, no matter how low your enemies go.
Weve all heard at least one version of this advice so often that its been reduced to tired cliches.
In ancestral environments, trust and cooperation were crucial for group survival.
Its so easy to remain where we are, to remain in the comfort of our discomfort.
psychologist and author ofThe Abstinence MythandUnhooked
On a more macro scale, the resulting anger andresentmentcan be channeled into productive, creative pursuits.
As an energizing emotion, anger encourages persistence in the short term and also promotes unstructured thinking.
His music channels personal and generational pain into music that inspires growth and catharsis and also sparks cultural conversations.
Another issue would be if these lead to isolation or prevent reconciliation, negatively affecting our existing relationships.
Hyperfixating on our grudges can ultimately hinder our personal growth, trapping us in a victim mindset.
Simply recognizing how you feel is step one.
Acknowledge the pain without judgment.
You dont have to justify it or rush to move on.
He also suggestsdetachingfrom the person, but not the lesson.
psychologist and author ofThe Abstinence MythandUnhooked
Were not trying to let them off the hook here.
Were just making sure that they cant control your emotional energy anymore.
Visser also stresses the importance of community during times like this.
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