For one writer, feminism was a gateway that led them to understand their identity as nonbinary.

Here, learn about their journey.

I often had the feeling that people experienced me instead of seeing me.

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In my teens, the loud music of clubbing joined books as a substitute for stressful human interaction.

I was able to dance to the music with no uncomfortable conversations penetrating through the sound.

I felt like myself without having to explain it to anyone.

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I soon began to learn basics about gender diversity and rights, which I incorporated into my organizing work.

Even still, I remained largely ignorant about how patriarchy operates as a total system of oppression.

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This shifted in 2019 when I met a community of trans people at arefugee safe housewhile in Kenya.

Under violently repressive conditions, members of this community lived in their truth as trans people.

It was a deep inner knowing that this is the space I belonged to.

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I am a gender outlaw.

The experience led me to question my gender identity and ultimately cultivate a self-awareness of my own genderqueerness.

As I grew more accustomed to being openly queer, I first described myself as a gender-nonconforming woman.

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I am a gender outlaw.

As Ive learned more about the breadth of genderqueerness, Ive felt more distant from feminism.

Feminism opened a door that guided me to trans visibility and a more complete understanding of my genderqueerness.

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I still believe that that is the role it can and often does take on.

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