But thats changed in recent years, with sexual-health experts even naming anal pleasure thenext great frontier sexual exploration.
You might know aboutrimming,plugging, andpegging, but what about anal fingering?
Theres a lot of pleasure that can come from using a fingeror two, or fiveto penetrate the anus.
Learn from sexperts all about how and why to become a pro at anal fingering.
In fact, some folks even haveanal orgasms.
Its an intimate experience that requires just your digits and some lube.
certified sex educator, certified sexuality coach, and founder of b-Vibe
The same isnt necessarily true when youre using a dildo, string ofanal beads, or vibrator.
But there are some sexual housekeeping tasks to take care of first.
To start, get yourself turned on with external genital stimulation.
Apply some pressure to the opening, breathing all the while.
As your body relaxes into the pleasurable sensation, youll be able to slip a finger in.
Let what feels good guide you.
Practicing anal self-pleasure will help you enjoy anal fingering more moving forwardboth receivingandgiving.
Have the conversation in advance of entering the bedroom so nobody feels pressured.
According to Dr. Goldstein, feces isstored in the upper bowels, which is separated by your internal sphincter.
certified sex educator, certified sexuality coach, and founder of b-Vibe
Poop does not just come out without warning, he says.
Use a soap and a gentle washcloth or loofah to help you really get in there.
Additionally, its an important part of anal fingering hygiene.
6 tips to finger your butt
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Never dive straight into penetration unless the receiver is adequately prepared.
When it comes to anal-anything, lube is non-negotiable, says Rowntree.
When the sexperts say use a lube, they mean lube specifically designed for sex.
When it comes to anal-anything, lube is non-negotiable.Angie Rowntree, founder of Sssh.com
As for thebest lubesfor anal?
Sinclair prefers oil-based lube because its long-lasting.
What is The Missionary Sex Position?
Once the muscles are relaxed, you’ve got the option to try out different methods of touch.
Ask your partner how it feels, and if they like one finger movement more or less than another.
Some people enjoy light thrusting, while others might prefer tapping.
8 techniques to try when fingering a butt
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Then try moving your finger in different ways.
Be sure to always ask before you insert more fingers.
Slow and steady
No matter how many fingers are in the bum, the speed should remain the same.
Dont start thrusting heavily, or speeding up your movements.
Fingering is often depicted as a strong, fast movement [in porn], says sex expertSusan Bratton.
Once inside, Bratton points out that the sphincter doesnt want a lot of forceful in-and-out movement.
Try out butt plugs, vibrators, or stackable rings to make finger penetration more sensational.
Never use a toy that has been in your anus to penetrate your vagina, she says.
Try it while doing reverse cowgirl
Hoping to add anal fingering into vaginal intercourse?
Bratton says that accompanying reverse cowgirl with a little backdoor action can be a real hit.
This position has a woman on top facing her partners feet with her back to them, she explains.
Try it with a strap-on or with P-in-the-V sex.
Another benefit of this position?
Target the P-Spot
For prostate owners, anal fingering can be even sweeter.
TheP-Spotis a seat of male orgasmic pleasure, Bratton says.
Its the equivalent of the female G-Spot and when stroked can deliver explosive pleasure.
To find it, she says to ease your finger inside and crook your finger up toward the belly.
To do so, simultaneously stimulate the clitoris or G-spot.
Rowntree recommends using a toy, like a bullet vibrator, on your clitoris while your butt is fingered.
Restraint can add a naughty aspect when you explore your back door, she says.
One way to practice power play?
Using a sex wedge cushion with arm and leg restraints.
Not sure what to say?
Describe how good your partner looks, what youre going to do to them.
Keep your whole sex experience as sanitary as possible, says Bratton.
You might even take a shower together.
Do whatever your normal aftercare entails, too, whether its cuddling or ordering in some food.
Especially if youre new to anal, checking in can help make your future endeavors smooth and pleasurable.
Its especially important to debrief after trying anything new during sex.
More FAQs about anal fingering
Can anal fingering lead to any long-term health issues?
Always talk to your doctor if youre concerned about the safety or health implications of any sex act.
What are some signs in the moment that you should stop anally fingering yourself or someone else?
If you want to continue, take a moment to regroup and talk through whats going on.
If you feel lingering pain, double-check to talk to your doctor.
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