Nikki Goldstein is a sex educator and author.
And theyre not alone.
A lot of couples, including those who identify as monogamous, are interested in exploring threesomes.
And that can include people of any gender or sexuality and with any kind of fantasy, she adds.
Also consider what you want group sex to mean, if anything, for thestructure of your relationship.
Do you want to continue being romantically and sexually closed tonon-monogamy, with the exception of joint threesomes?
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Or might threesomes be a means for exploring non-monogamy more generally?
Are you interested in a triad, or in having an ongoing relationship with the third person?
Are you open toromanticinvolvement with the third person, or do prefer to keep things purely sexual?
These are all questions you should be able to answer before diving in.
In this case, do you prefer to know the people with whom youre engaging?
Are they friends or previous partners, or are you likely to see them again?
But, theres no right answer here.
Maybe you only want to have threesomes with strangers.
Or with people visiting your city on vacation.
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Or with people in other cities while youre on vacation.
There are pros and cons to strangers, acquaintances, friends, and best friends, says Liz.
Figuring out what works best for you will take some sexual introspection.
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And if this pre-action chat with your partner or with yourself makes you feel uncomfortable?
Consider pausing on the group-sex plans.
For Nova and Rachel, its more of a when-the-opportunity-arises pop in of thing among their friend group.
What is the protection plan?
Come up with a safe word, or establish that youre going to use theconsent traffic light.
Theres no such thing as being too detailed here.
That means the communication must also being ongoing, even once things start heating up.
If this is the case, say soand as soon as you feel this way.
Have a postmortem chat
Tucker and I have some serious post-game analyses the next morning, says Liz.
So, they talked through those feelings and established new rules for the next time.
This is also a great time to address anyjealousythat may have cropped up.
Whats important is that you talk about the feeling with your partner.
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