Before you know it, youre suddenly having doubts about your relationship.

You might even find yourself asking, is itnormalto doubt your relationship?

Is it normal to have doubts in a relationship?

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You are two different people negotiating needs and expectations, so doubts are part of the process.

In fact, not having any doubts ever would be a huge red flag to me, says Games.

These doubts apply doubly to people who tend toward overthinking when it comes to romantic partnerships.

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couples therapist and owner of Healing Connections

This would be typical of someone with aninsecure attachment style, says Games.

Doubts, in essence, are not unhealthy; they just are, says Games.

Why am I having doubts about my relationship?

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Doubt can be a fear-triggered protective response to getting close to someone, says Turecki.

can lead to doubts for the simple reason that no one person will be a perfect match.

According to relationship therapistMelissa Divaris Thompson, LMFT: No one person can give you everything.

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Maybe that would be fine if you two had talked about having future hypothetical children, but you hadnt.

Doubtand lots of it.

Doubt can put the brakes on a relationship that was otherwise full steam ahead.

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couples therapist and owner of Healing Connections

Doubt makes us question and take a step back, says Thompson.

Doing so can lead to a very volatile and unstable relationship, she says.

How do I stop doubting in a relationship?

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Acknowledge whether doubt is a pattern

Is doubt something youve felt in every single one of your relationships?

In other cases, doubt may manifest as the effect of a different commitment problem.

Some doubts are based on circumstantial evidence of a partners behaviors that may merit clarification, says Games.

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Frequently asked questions

Why am I unsure about my relationship?

There are many reasons why insecurity arise in a relationship.

How do I stop doubting my partner in a relationship?

Is it possible for a relationship to survive doubts?

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