Its one word, two letters, and somehow tougher to say than slaying the Nemean lion.
But when you say no to someone else, youre saying yes to yourself.
Its a sign of self-respect, and a barrier against being overwhelmed to the point of burnout.
And wow, do I feel seen.
psychologist Helene Brenner, PhD
Sometimes a no is really necessary for the sake of personal wellness, too.
Try these 3 self-check exercises to gauge how youreallyfeel
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licensed psychologist and creator of the My Inner Voice app
Check in with yourself
Listen to your gut feelings about your ideal situation.
If the thought of doing something gives you a terrible sinking feeling, rethink your decision.
Remove emotion from the situation and ask yourself: What do I really know to be true here?
Lets consider the scenario of being asked to do a favor at work.
Dr. Brenner advises that you ask yourself if youre really indispensable in this situation.
Are you the only person who can do this task?
Will disaster strike if you say no?
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Its time to give yourself a minute.
licensed psychologist and creator of the My Inner Voice app
Picture them leaving, and exit the door after them.
Why is this exercise important?
3 Helpful tips on how to actually say no without feeling awful about it
1. attempt to say no in the most caring way possible: Im so sorry.
I would love to help you with that.
But I am so ridiculously busy right now, I just cant.
And remember that through it all, saying no doesnt mean youre a bad person.
It simply means youre prioritizing your own needs.
Originally published May 31st, 2019.
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