A family therapist shares how to set boundaries.
But since Im living with my parents until this whole pandemic blows over, the barriers are even weaker.
Mom,I shout with full teen angst emphasis.
Im on a phone call, this cant keep happening.
Unfortunately, it will, and longer than anyone imagined.
Fully regressing tohigh school modelike you would over Thanksgiving isnt a longterm sustainable option.
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Were all adults here, andhealthy boundariesshould be set to reflect that.
Thats thelastthing anyone wants to hear when all their other freedoms taken away.
Ideally, as soon as you get there.
Theyre finding a new normal and balancing work and family dynamics can be a lot.
If possible, its important to set ground rules from the beginning.
Remember, youre entering their space and living in their home.
You live and you learn.
Be proactive in making this happen, so you’re free to also set boundaries elsewhere.
Trust me on this.
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Book the kitchen between the hours of 10 and 10:30, note that on everyones calendars.
Setting up a routine can be helpful because then everyone will know what to expect.
If you are isolating with your partner, its also important to share this with them.
Setting up time for work, alone time, and family time is important.
Remember,your parent is a human being.
In arguments, make a run at remember everyone is doing the best they can, says Thompson.
Go back to the point on gratitude, and make a run at put yourself in their shoes.
Ask what they are needing before sharing what you need, this may help mitigate arguments.
Shout NO or WHY or just slam my bedroom door and blast Marilyn Manson.
God, I miss February.
Again, kindness is key when it comes to getting along.
Anytime you’re able to lead with vulnerability I would suggest that, says Thompson.
You notice that work bleeds over into personal times most days, and need a breather for yourself.
Dealing with someone elses family brings a new veneer of awkwardness to the situation.
When its not-your-family, you feel like you have even less agency to voice complaints.
Thats why the quick and dirty solution there is to have someone else do the complaining.
Good luck out there, folks.
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