A narcissist smear campaign is how narcissists attempt to take control once a relationship ends.
Learn how to stop this manipulation tactic.
In short, they want to have all the power in the relationship.
So what happens when their target breaks up with them?
Or gets some control back?
Unfortunately, the narcissistic person may respond with whats called a narcissistic smear campaign.
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It typically happens when theyre completely done with the person.
These are only a couple of examples.
What is a narcissist smear campaign?
Or they may use information you shared with them in confidence to make you look like the bad guy.
Do all ninetypes of narcissistsengage in this behavior?
What about people withnarcissistic tendencies?
Why does a narcissist start a smear campaign?
They feel it takes away their control and supply.
(Supply being the validation, recognition, admiration, etc.
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that narcissists get from people or other sources.)
Narcissists will threaten to launch a smear campaign as a way to silence the victim.
If that image gets tarnished by the truth of their own actions, they may enact a smear campaign.
Her explanation of why provides different insight, however.
How can you tell if a narcissist is smear-campaigning you?
Dr. Crain adds you might also hear about it from people who are trying to warn you.
People start turning against you
Even people in your corner, according to Danley.
Were youreallya bad partner?Wasit wrong of you to say X or Y?
What are examples of a narcissist smear campaign?
They will do anything to paint themselves as a victim, she says.
Another key example includes friends and family members.
How long does a narcissist smear campaign last?
For better or for worse, theres no set time range on how long a smear campaign can last.
Jambazian says it really depends on the narcissist and the situation.
Smear campaigns can also be short-lived once they pursue another supply.
Dr. Crain agrees its all about the new supply.
Theres no real way of knowing how long it might take.
It can go on as long as they want to put in the energy, she says.
Will a narcissist hoover after a smear campaign?
Another narcissistic tactic to acknowledge here is hoovering.
What stops a narcissist smear campaign?
Jambazian agrees, adding that becoming defensive wont help your case.
Consider blocking their phone number, their social media, etc.
Maintain boundaries and cut all ties with the person, Danley advises.
If you work with them, have as little contact as possible.
Talk to your co-workers about it [and] manage your social media so that it is more private.
Both are viable options, she says.
Talking about the pros and cons of both options with a mental health professional can help you decide.
You are not alone, even if and when you feel that way.
Stick to the people who are anti-gaslighters and who do not believe in false narratives, Jambazian says.
Talk to a therapist
Danley urges pursuing this ASAP if you havent already.
To find the right therapist for you, consider filtering through theOpen Path CollectiveandPsychology Todaydatabases.
Regardless of which tips you choose, remember a smear campaign doesnt define youyou get to define yourself.
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