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But declaring love for myself has often felt a little disingenuous.
I always figured it was my natural aversion to lovey-dovey emotions that was holding me back (typicalAquariushere).
But the idea of trusting yourself?
Eh, take it or leave it.
We live in a culture that tears us down and then tells us to love ourselves.
somatic and relational psychotherapist, and co-founder ofSpoke, a community-based organization for group support
Lia Avellino, LCSW, licensed psychotherapist
These mixed messages arent just confusingtheyre incessant.
Basically, our brain gets comfortable with bad vibes, and it can begin to view self-love as sketchy.
While love is often touted as this inexplicable feeling (You just know it when you feel it!
What is the real meaning of self-trust?
Why do I struggle to trust myself?
Just because self-trust might feel more accessible than self-lovedoesnt mean it will come naturally.
Its not always malicious though.
Why is trusting yourself important?
And thats all you might really control, anyway.
somatic and relational psychotherapist, and co-founder ofSpoke, a community-based organization for group support
How to learn to better trust yourself
1.
Get to know yourselflike,reallyknow yourself
You wouldnt trust a stranger, right?
For the same reason, you probably cant trust yourself if you dont really know yourself.
What are three things that bring my joy?
When and with whom do I feel insecure or secure?
Pharaon suggests something as simple as stopping to consider how you feel after purchasing something.
Is that $7 lattereallydoing it for you?
How did you feel after that last Amazon purchase?
How did a certain task or coworker or meeting make you feel?
Can you feel butterflies in your stomach?
Do you notice that youre holding some serious tension in your shoulders or your jaw?
(Been there.)
Write it all down.
So what real reason would I have to believe my own words of self-love?
When you fail to keep promises to yourself, youre teaching yourself that your word isnt trustworthy.
And sometimes, that might feel like too big of a loss to bearwhich is okay, too.
Feeling lost or confused along the path to self-trust is also totally normal, says Avellino.
Sometimes, everything works out great, and sometimes it doesnt, but nothingbadhappens, either, she says.
(Yes, this is where the self-trust part comes in.)
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