But surprisingly, the number-one question I get is not any of those above.
Its extraordinarily rare that one person is ever solely responsible for the demise of any relationship.
However, its more common that I hear a sense of shame in the question.
A feeling of failure is a totally normal response to divorce or separation.
And yet, divorce is consistently described as brutally lonely.
Im afraid of their reaction, she said.
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My marriage was important to them, and I know how disappointed theyll be.
This isnt supposed to happen in our family.
Another wanted her spouse to pretend everything was fine in front of their friends for a holiday party.
Many people change their routines or stay home to avoid being seen struggling.
Some even report feeling embarrassed they ever chose that person.
Im not suggesting that everyone in our lives should receive the same amount of detail and information.
This starts by creating an accepting environment that suspends judgement about the choice to seek a divorce.
Get specific about things you want to do and accomplish and allow yourself to dream big!
Write these down and post them somewhere youll see them regularly.
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Revisit them when youre feeling stuck and challenge yourself to take even one step toward that dream.
What action will you take, and when?
What will success look like?
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Messages will make it easier to have conversations you might otherwise avoid.
On the personal side, the hardest part is asking for what you need from the right person.
Who will have your back 100 percent?
Can they help you share information with others?
Can they listen without inflaming the situation, and provide honest feedback?
Choose someone you trust.
Professionally, there are many options.
These tools and many others are available to help make the divorce process more manageable and less isolating.
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