All this advice is well-intentioned.
But what happens when youve tried it all without much success?
But the potential result of forming new connections seemed more than worth it.
One day passed since the post and… nothing.
Day two… crickets.
My goal to schedule one friend date every day in January remained intact.
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However, I realized that I would need to directly message people with my request for this to happen.
Despite my fear, I was already committed, and I began the task.
The process was both empowering and humbling.
Each one was different.
But each showed me something new about myself and my approach to relationships.
to make it get something out of any relationship, you better put something into it.
For the most part, however, the work felt worth it.
I made genuine connections with people and have continued to actively communicate with many of them.
I made genuine connections with people and have continued to actively communicate with many of them.
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These situations can happen with current friends and partners as much as they can with prospective ones.
(After all, getting stood up is never aboutyouor within your control.)
And it wasnt worth my mental or emotional energy to venture to figure out why.
Many also shared my sentiments around struggling to form friendships in adulthood and fearing rejection.
This is what really fosters human connection.
Ask more open-ended questions of people to get to know what makes them tick.
That also means taking time to nurture your connections with would-be friends one-on-one.
As it turned out, expanding my social circle also meant cultivating and expanding my interests.
If thats you, I want to assure you that youre not alone.
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