Is there such a thing as too much negativity?
Experts share their thoughts on when you might need to dial back your inner critic.
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But the term is rather loose, sometimes referring to being more of a critic or unenthusiastic about something.
We all have a littleStatler and Waldorfin us, right?
Ahead, experts share their take on negativity and how it might be affecting your mental health and relationships.
psychotherapist, founder ofOn Par Therapy NYC
What makes someone a hater?
A hater is someone who always has something negative to say.
But others simply enjoy the sport of putting down others.
Being a hater is in our DNAsort of.
We need to recognize threats in our environment, whether were avoiding a tripping hazard or a cheating ex.
Our bias toward negativity helps us determine who to cooperate with and who to compete with.
Its hard work to look at the bright side and give others grace.
Hold on, cant hate strengthen relationships?
Negativity can be a powerful bonding agent.
psychotherapist, founder ofOn Par Therapy NYC
Watch any season ofReal Housewivesand youll see cast members airing their grievances to each other.
As a viewer, Im hating alongside the housewives as though we have a common enemy.
Sometimes, gossip and negativity stem from emotions like fear and jealousy.
You could also dislike someone simply because a loved one does.
In a healthy relationship, people respect each others differences.
How do you know if negativity is harming your well-being?
Disliking something or someone doesnt always mean strong emotions are behind it.
Other times, dislike may be accompanied by feelings of anger or powerlessness.
What can you do if hate is harming your well-being?
Fortunately, there are things you’re free to do to keep your hater tendencies in check.
Reframe your self-talk
Try keeping a log of your thoughts in your notes app or journal.
Remove negative influences
Consider which relationships might be contributing to your negativity.
Surround yourself with supportive people, including those who challenge your negative attitudes and behavior, Appleton says.
That said, being a hater does have a certain appeal.
Also, youre less likely to be manipulated by misleading information when you think critically and raise concerns.
But, theres a big difference between being skepticaland being a downright hater.
Makes sensewe cant hate such practical advice.
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