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But heres the thing: A personality trait is often something thats binarysomething you have or something you dont.
Through that lens, the notion of not having confidence can feel incredibly defeating.
Instead, learning how to feel confident rather than be confident is whats really important.
First, its key acknowledge and embrace the reality that we simply wont feel confident all the time.
Only from there is it possible to learn what we need to feel more confident.
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Often, confidence is built from our thoughts and actions.
Its not about an ability but about a belief in said ability.
Furthermore, only you could figure out what builds your confidence.
However, one thing in particular that universally helps build confidence is abandoning the desire to compare.
Thecomparison trapextends to both other people and past versions of yourself.
That said, making comparisons is a natural part of being a human.
Theres even a psychological theory calledthe social comparison theory.
Both of these are natural feelings, but theyre also thieves of joy and confidence.
(Science says so.)
Two other confidence-building strategies that typically help people includeself-compassionand facing your fears head-on.
The irony here is that we gain confidence from doing the thing.
This can, in turn, actually translate to confidence later on.
Practicing self-compassion can be as simple as saying, This isnt how I wanted this to go.
This isnt how I wanted to feel, and thats okay.
Im going to be okay.
Its about being warm, kind, and understanding to ourselves rather than self-flagellating.
In fact,a 2015 studyconnected self-compassion with self-confidence when it comes to interpersonal problem-solving.
And remember, feeling confident is just thata feeling, which can come and go.
So, rather than striving for confidence, challenge yourself to cultivate self-awareness, self-acceptance, and grace.
Then, the confidence will follow.
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