It’s tough to “listen to you gut” and ignore what others think.
Here, learn why it’s so hard to stop seeking approval, plus how to do it.
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And often, reaching that destination absolutely feels fulfilling.
Until it doesnt, that is.
The thing is, learning how to stop seeking approval isnt easy, either.
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When we say yes to ourselves, we inherently say no to others.
Choice is so hard because it requires making a changegiving up one path to get somewhere else.
Going after the job of your dreams might mean taking a pay cut.
Setting boundaries with your boss might mean disappointing them.
4 reasons its tough to opt out of the approval trap
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Collective cultures prioritize the needs of the group over the desires of the individual.
This means that the behavior of the individual reflects on the identity of a group.
On the contrary, in individualist cultures, personal needs are paramount.
Their perceived lovability quotient may have been dependent on a sense of approval.
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Capitalism
Capitalism values beingbusy as a metric of enoughness and personal importance.
It says that what wedodetermines our value.
Many folks grow up wondering what am I valued for?
rather than what doIvalue?
We are taught to seek status, wealth, and material goods to get to lead a successful life.
Capitalism says that what wedodetermines our value.
This pursuit keeps us disconnected from our feelings, wants, and needs so that we continue to produce.
But, feeling is at odds with doing, since feeling requires slowing down and reflecting.
Would your days look or feel differently than they do now?
Remember, comparison narrows our field of view.
Heres how to stop seeking approval from others in 5 steps
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Why am I getting married?
Why am I saying yes to this party invitation?
Why am I saving my money for a house?
We can each have an experience that is true without it impinging on the validity of the other.
We might have heart palpitations or break out in hives.
Our nervous systems reject things until they feel less new.
Charting a new path requires getting lost, rerouting, failing, and experimentation.
But all of these aspects are crucial parts of the journey to authentic living.
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