Thinking about reaching out to an ex during this global time of unease related to the COVID-19 pandemic?
Here’s why (and whether you should hit send).
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And, it bears mentioning that Im an independent contractor whosusedto working from home.
That is, the strangely strong urge I have for reaching out to an ex during this time.
Theincomingtext messages I started receiving few days ago from five separate exes.
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BecauseIm now fully daydreamingmaybe youaremeant for each other and this very pandemic is whats reuniting you.
And slow motion will definitely be involved.
But you know what can distract me from that reality?
Familiar banter and flirtation with people whom I have a history of chemistry.
Its natural to want to reach out to someone who made you feel cared about or protected.
It would be really nice to have someone who has your back right now.
It depends on why!
You might be really vulnerable now, Dr. Darmus says.
If you two are still friends, maybe.
If you havent been talking, or talking tends to turn out badly, no.
Your reasons probably arent the right ones.
As another litmus test to gauge whether texting your ex is a smart idea?
Consider what it is youre looking to gain from the conversation.
What is it you need?
A sense of being loved?
Trying to live it up in case life is never the same?
Um, can I say all of the above?
Respect your emotional needs, but find another way to satisfy them, Dr. Daramus says.
Can you get physical touch from a pet?
What else would give you some physical pleasure without taking too big a risk?
If its safety, maybe talk to a friend and make a pact to take care of each other.
Or buy a weighted blanket.
Whatever the emotional need, get creative about fulfilling it without your ex.
So, work to remind yourself of the reasons you two arent together anymore.
…Just me?)
(Lets see if I can follow my own advice for once.)
And theres ascientific reason why your anxiety around COVID-19 may be super high right now.
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