Psychologists says that fighting during quarantine is natural (even expected).
Here are scripts for dealing with the most common disagreements that crop up.
But with tensions running high right now, arguments are bound to crop up.
In fact, according to one clinical psychologist, fighting during quarantine is commonspecifically in five categories.
Under ideal circumstances, disagreements dont evolve into actual fights.
Even those withhealthy emotional intelligenceandgreat coping skillsmay find themselves more easily triggered or irritated.
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Even those with healthy emotional intelligence and great coping skills may find themselves more easily triggered or irritated.
The good news is that quarantine wont last forever, so fighting during quarantine wont either.
Stop fighting during quarantine about the 5 most common disagreementsheres how:
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Arguments about disrespect (Why wont you do The dishes?)
A perceived lack of respect in your quarantine relationships mayreallyirk you at the moment.
Dr. Manlys script:Id like to talk aboutkeeping the house tidy.
Is this a good time?
I feel a bit stressed, as Ive noticed that the kitchen and bathroom are getting a little messy.
(What are they doing thats more important than talking to me?!)
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Dr. Manlys script: I miss seeing you in person andfeel really disconnected.
Could we schedule a weekly time to talk via FaceTime for a half hour or so?
What would work for you?
3. arguments about emotional intelligence levels (Why dont you ask about my day anymore?)
Emotional intelligence, or lack thereof, is a huge issue in relationships right now.
Dr. Manlys script: I feel hurt and alone when youre not emotionally available to me.
I would love to talk with you about whats going on with me.
And I want to hear about whats going on with you.
4. arguments about money (Should we buying this?)
I wanted you to know that Im stressed about it.
I know you cant fix it, but know I am doing everything I can to limit my expenses.
Id like to talk about ways we can continue to make this work.
5. arguments concerning a shortage of personal space (Can I be alone?)
Given shelter-in-place orders, many people do not have the freedom of movement and space they are accustomed to.
Dr. Manlys script: I know we are both feeling cramped and cooped up right now.
I feel stressed and frustrated about this.
just dont take offense when Iput my earphones on.
Im not trying to tune you out.
Im just trying to recalibrate and tune into myself.
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