That also means that one persons kink can be very different from the next personsand thats okay.
Kink is specific to the person and usually is something that others may consider to be taboo.
Below, Stewart outlines a few common ones:
What is BDSM?
BDSM is a tidy acronym for a broad range of sexual preferences that relate to physical control.
It may involve the use ofkink accessoriessuch as whips, St. Andrews Cross, spanking benches, orcuffing accessories.
What is the BDSM Test?
sex educator withLoversand co-author ofThe Ultimate Guide To Seduction and Foreplay
It works by asking you the degree to which you agree with certain statements related to your sexual appetite.
This version is best suited for folks who are mildly interested in BDSM.
you could score in all of the BDSM categories or just some of them, with varying percentages.
How do you take the BDSM Test?
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Youll answer each statement on a scale of absolutely agree to absolutely disagree.
What are the BDSM archetypes?
They include:
Dominant:They want to take the lead in the bedroom.
Submissive:Theyfollowthe lead, letting their partner take full control (or slowly take it away).
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Rigger:They like to tie up and restrain their partners.
Rope bunny:They take pleasure frombeingtied up and restrained by their partners.
Brat tamer:They like handling brats, who are those who seek dominance by way of disobedience.
Brat:They are disobedient with the aim of being taught a lesson by their partner.
Primal hunter:They tune into their animal instincts, including snarling, growling, and clawing.
Primal prey:Like hunters, theyre animalistic and raw, but desireescapingtheir hunter partners.
Age player:They like taking on an older or younger age in the bedroom.
Exhibitionist:They like showing their naked body to other people.
Voyeur:They like to seeothersnaked or having sex.
Experimentalist:They want to actively pursue their fantasies and try it all.
Non-monogamist:They have multiple partners.
Switch:They switch between dominant and submissive roles, and sometimes, partners.
Vanilla:They prefer standard relationship roles and models.
These are just 15 of the 25 BDSM archetypes.
To view the full list, visit theBDSM Test website.
People approach the BDSM Test at different levels and with different kinks, saysLovehoneysexologistShamyra Howard, LCSW.
For this reason, it is helpful to start where you are in your individual kink journey.
Sex educatorShanae Adams, LPCC, says that its this self-examination that makes the test worth taking.
This quiz is also great for generating discussion and providing language [for talking to your sexual partner].
You definitely cant know where youre going [sexually] if you dont have a place to start.
Shamyra Howard, LCSW, sexologist
Howard adds that the BDSM archetypes can be particularly enlightening.
This test can help a person understand their kinks and possibly permit them to explore them.
This can help you honor your 10-percent dominant and settle in your 80-percent submissive, says Howard.
You definitely cant know where youre going [sexually] if you dont have a place to start.
This is just a test and not a monolithic experience, says Adams.
Use the test as a jumping-off point, but not as an end-all, be-all.
Theres a reason the term BDSM encompasses so much: Sex and sexuality are complex.
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