Kink educators share what you should know about this lesser-known pop in of bondageand how to try it safely.
Because I know from personal and professional experience that hog-tying can be physically and emotionally pleasurable and intense.
Wondering about hog-tying or other forms of bondage after watchingDying for Sex(or even long before that)?
What is hog-tying, exactly?
At its most distilled, hog-tying is a bang out of bondage, or sexual restraint.
Exactly where and how an individual is tied up can vary.
intimacy coordinator, BDSM Educator, and one of the BDSM consultants forDying for Sex
With that, its important to understand that hog-tying is not synonymous with Shibari.
That is to say,many.
The pressure can feel sensual, and even groundingmuch like a tight hug, she says.
Hog-tying can facilitate other sexual kinks, too.
Hog-tying can also encourage feelings of exhibitionism and support fantasies of objectification, humiliation, or breeding.
On the mental and emotional side, being hog-tied can be very liberating, says Rue.
intimacy coordinator, BDSM Educator, and one of the BDSM consultants forDying for Sex
For some, this is the permission slip they need to fully let go and release.
Some might be motivated to try this kink because it activates sensations of Dominance, says Dames.
Others find that the act calms and quiets their thoughts.
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Hog-tying communicates that your partner trusts you enough to cede control, says Shannon.
How to safely explore hog-tying
1.
Introduce the idea to your partner
Your hog-tying exploration cant start with you whipping out ropes mid-nookie.
If youve seenDying For Sex, Shannon suggests using the show as a segue.
But short of that, there isnt a right or wrong time to introduce the idea, she says.
Worth noting: While hog-tying may be a multi-person form of restraint, not all forms of bondage are.
Start at level one
Hog-tying is a pretty advanced form of restraint, says Dames.
After all, it involves restraint of your lower and upper limbs all at once.
Just see to it you know how to work the buckles for a quick release, she says.
That said, rope isnt the only way to restrain someone, says Dames.
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Thats why Shannon encourages curious people to attend an in-person rope class.
You also need to be prepared to cut your rope or tape to free your bottom, she explains.
Immediately following play, tend to one another’saftercareneeds.
Then, in the hours or days later, share what you did and didnt like about the sexperience.
Hog-tying is just one position within the much larger context of rope bondage, says Rue.
So, you might agree to try a different restraint style next timeor not.
Either way, the fact that you tried something new deserves celebrating.
Because, asDying For Sexreminds us, the quest towards pleasure and erotic fulfillment is a worthy one.
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