There are only four aspects of commitment, including dedication and three constraints.
Find out which constraint is the most toxic.
And the truth is, willful commitment and relationship stabilitycaninvolve some constraints.
Felt constraint was the only factor that correlated with an adverse impact that may lead to breakups.
Debra Roberts, LCSW
So why is that?
So its not surprising that the biggest predictor of failure is associated with the felt constraint.
conversation expert, developer of The Relationship Protocol® communication model, and program creator
So how can you identify if a felt constraint is keeping you stuck in a relationship?
Many of us feel relationship anxiety, such as, Is this person good enough or right for me?
But oftentimes what is at the root of this question is, Am I enough?
Am I living my life as if I am worthy of love and goodness?'
If the root question is one of self-worth, consider investigating on your own or with a professional.
Ask yourself: Is this something that happens once in a while?
Do you feel trapped in other areas of your life?
Explore the feeling of trapped, before assuming its about the other person, says Avellino.
Consider: What would make you feel free?
When was the last time you felt free?
What needs to shift to make more space for autonomy and choice in your life?
Have you expressed this and made your needs explicit to your partner?
Remember, you are not chained to your relationship.
You decide if your partnership is truly right for you.
If the constraints are weighing you down, it might be time to set yourself free.
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