In the more than 20 years since, Ive taken approximately 25 flights to 10 countries and three continents.
Their travel has always been out of sacrifice or necessitybut mine?
Always for leisure or in luxury.
My parents travel has always been out of sacrifice or necessitybut mine?
Always for leisure or in luxury.
You see, Im a well-being and lifestyle writer whocovers travel.
trauma therapist and founder ofLatinx Therapy, a national, bilingual hub of mental health resources for the Latinx community
At the end of August, sportswear company HOKA paid for me to go to France.
In addition to these press trips, Ive also taken vacations on my own dime.
In 2021, my cousins and I partied in Cancun for a week.
That same year, I celebrated my birthday with friends in Atlanta, Georgia.
Im so grateful that my hard work paid off and that I have these opportunities.
She often recalls that she had to run away from hounds that chased her along the U.S.-Mexico border.
At least she had family here and was able to get a job with those connections.
They didnt leave Mexico by choice.
Even as a teenager, my mom could see the time and monetary burden on her family.
trauma therapist and founder ofLatinx Therapy, a national, bilingual hub of mental health resources for the Latinx community
Resting is a big one.
Documentation status is also on the list.
Neither one of my parents has a particularly physically demanding job.
Theyve also been U.S. citizens since the 90s, so my guilt hasnt stemmed from any mixed-status issues.
However, they still cant travel much.
They need virtually every penny they make at work for food, their mortgage, and household expenses.
My parents just cant afford to be away from work and not making money.
Though they mean well, they often say things like, Youre leavingagain?
which means Look ather!
Especially as first-gens, we feel that silent obligation to help our parents once we reach our milestones.
More particularly, we valuefamilismo, says Alejandre, referencing the Latinx concept of putting family first.
For a while, he couch-surfed until he could find a steady source of income.
But her biggest sacrifice, she says, was giving up her dream of becoming a doctor.
But Dr. Sanchez says its important for me to consider my parents perspectives, too.
And in many ways, they may have already achieved that.
Most likely, it is just you, says Alejandre.
Its important to reflect on how the silent expectations you may be placingon yourselfare feeding the guilt.
Self-awareness is key, as is understanding that theres a reason why youre experiencing discomfort.
And as for the feeling that my lifestyle is at odds with the way I was raised?
When I shared my recent guilt with my parents, they confirmed as much.
I feel bad because I wouldnt have any of this without you, I recently told my mom.
Im sorry I cant bring you with me.
She swiftly responded, Nombre.
Estoy super orgullosa de ti y yo estoy feliz viendo a mis hijos felices y bien.
Im super proud of you, and Im happy seeing my kids happy and doing well.)
Plus, she knows I always find any way that I can toshare my luxuries with her.
And my career is still growing.
Who knows what Ill be able to share in the future?
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