Just in time for V-Day…or a random Tuesday.

I had the opportunity to chat with Boodram all about the class onMasterClass.

Here are some red-hot takeaways from our conversation.

sex educator and MasterClass Instructor Shan Boodram posing for a portrait in front of a red background that shows couples kissing in honor of valentine’s day

First, what inspiredThe Art of Sex Appeal?

While the resources were informative, “they were so boring,” she recalls.

That is untilMasterClasscame along last year.

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certified sex educator, author ofThe Game of Desire,andsex and relationships expert forK-YandBumble

The spiciest takeaways from Boodram’s class onMasterClass

Dying to know more about Boodram’s sex advice?

Boodram says that body language, eye contact, and an opening line mean everything.

“Then, find a conversation starter that’ll lead to a flirty chat.

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“Think of them as another act of intimacy,” she adds.

First, communicate the boundary.

Then, redirect to some other options that you’d be open to.

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So, what better time to start learning than now?

In this class, Boodram goes into the anatomy of the clitoris (which has8,000 nerve endings2, BTW!

For example, in the class, couples talk about different types of foreplay they want to try.

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certified sex educator, author ofThe Game of Desire,andsex and relationships expert forK-YandBumble

So, how do you know if the games or exercises you’re choosing will be useful?

First, Boodram recommends finding games that are made or approved by experts.

(She personally loves the card game “Where Should We Begin?”

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by fellow sex educator andMasterClassinstructorEsther Perel.)

Talking about sex does not have to be uncomfortable, boring, or shame-inducing.

Reminder: this is perfectly normal.

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Or maybe you’re experiencingvaginal dryness from menopauseso penetration doesn’t feel as good as it used to.

These are all changes that can affect the sexual experience for vulva owners.

Intimacy comes in many forms

“There are many forms of intimacy,” says Boodram.

While intimacy may not always feelurgent, it may beimportantto you and your partner(s).

All that to say, intimacy in any formemotional, physical, mentalis well worth it.

The bottom line

Boodram acknowledges that life can get pretty overwhelming.

So, don’t wait until Valentine’s Day to ramp up your sex life.

Why not start now?

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