If you’re wondering: What is enmeshment?
And How does it differ from codependency?
Learn about the behavior pattern, here.
It may seem like the strongest couples are always in sync when it comes to their likes and dislikes.
But sometimes, peoples lives can become so intertwined that their boundaries are almost nonexistent.
Experts refer to this relationship dynamic as enmeshment.
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What are some signs of an enmeshed relationship?
These little quirks that seemed endearing at first can get on your nerves once youre past the honeymoon phase.
They have no distinguishing identity outside of being a couple.
Theyll give up hobbies or interests that dont involve their partner.
Often, they have a difficult time separating their feelings from their partners feelings.
They not only empathize but also take on their partners emotions as if they were their own.
For example, if your partner comes home upset about work, their job stress becomes your problem.
Your focus remains on making them happy even if its harming your mental health and your relationship.
Enmeshment andcodependency in relationshipsare related concepts that are sometimes used interchangeably.
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For example, codependent couples cant make decisions without seeking their partners approval.
Its like they need each other to function in dysfunction, Dr. Appleton says.
How do you move away from enmeshment?
In fact, differences are something you should celebrate, Dr. Appleton says.
She encourages couples to spend time exploring areas of contention and practice communicating in a respectful manner.
Its also beneficial to explore whats motivating you to engage in enmeshed behaviors.
It can be scary and uncomfortable when you start working through enmeshment and codependency.
Sometimes, these behaviors are deeply rooted in our upbringings and our core beliefs, Dr. Fedrick says.
Theyll have a go at make you feel guilty for setting boundaries.
If youre struggling with enmeshment, keep in mind that these behaviors are not going to change overnight.
Practice is key along with giving yourself time to adapt to new ways of being, Dr. Fedrick says.
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