By seeking marriage counseling proactively, youll be better prepared to handlecommon, albeit stressful situationsas a couple.
Keep reading to learn more.
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When to seek marriage counseling
Curious when to seek marriage counseling?
We chatted with a few relationship experts for their top tips on the subject.
Thats good news but the great news is that marriage counseling can help.
Counseling enables a couple to deal with those moments and changes in a positive way.
Leslie Montanile, AKA “The Marriage Lawyer, is a certified relationship coach, matrimonial lawyer, and author.
But, whatever you do, dont take that as a sign to ditch your therapist.
have a go at continue on a regular basis, even if that is bi-weekly or once a month.
Or maybe you are married or engaged, but it all happened so fast.
Whatever the case may be, Wright says that relationship therapy can be hugely beneficial.
How To Approach Your Partner About Marriage Counseling
Think you might need marriage counseling?
The first step is acknowledging it, the second is learning how to approach your partner about it.
As with any serious couples conversation, Montanile says its important to pick an opportune time for the discussion.
They wont be receptive and will become defensive and angry with you.
Blaming will get you nowhere.
Leslie Montanile, AKA “The Marriage Lawyer, is a certified relationship coach, matrimonial lawyer, and author.
But you know what will?
A Step-by-Step Conversation About Marriage Counseling
Still not sure how to broach the subject?
Wright has a four-step approach.
Start by asking for a container to talk.
When is a good time?
Once youve created the container and are within it, its time to acknowledge your concerns.
After acknowledging, explain how it makes you feel.
For example, I feel scared when we dont communicate effectively or hear each other well.
or I feel worried that if we dont go to therapy together that well wind up building resentment.
Lastly, offer up a solution.
or how does that sound?
or What I see as a potential step forward is scheduling time for our physical intimacy on the calendar.
What do you think?
Remember: It Takes Time
All therapy takes time.
Marriage counseling is no different.
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