Emotional projection is something many of us use as adefense mechanismfor self-preservation, especially in stressful and anxiety-ridden moments.
Why do we project our feelings in the first place?
People are not projecting intentionally or often even aware that they are doing it.
What are a few examples of projecting feelings onto others?
Here are a few examples of projections you might make:
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What you say: They dont like me, or I know they hate me.
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What you say: They must be cheating on me.
What you say: They dont take good care of themselves.
What you say: Why are you so angry/upset/frustrated?
Why should you stop projecting?
Criticism also leads to contempt.
Naturally, thats all easier said than done.
But figuring out how to actually stop projecting your emotions and insecurities is entirely another thing.
Ask yourself:What about this person or scenario is triggering me right now?
What am I feeling in my body, and is there an emotion attached to these sensations?
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Consider where this perception might be originating.
You dont like me.
And in the you statement you levy at them, they become your emotional scapegoat.
In these cases, focus on shifting to I statements: Am I feeling bored?
Do I like me?
Am I feeling comfortable in my own skin?
How do I feel about monogamy or my sex life right now?
Instead of judging, ask yourself a question about a personal experience to better understand where your insecurities lie.
Chances are, you will be acutely aware of others who lack in these areas, too.
But, it is also less real and authentic.
Frequently Asked Questions About Projecting Feelings
What is the difference between projecting and expressing feelings?
How can you tell if someone is projecting onto you?
How should you respond when you suspect someone is projecting onto you?
If the person is an acquaintance, lean into your truth and ignore the projection.
Rnic, Katerina et al.
Cognitive Distortions, Humor Styles, and Depression.Europes journal of psychologyvol.
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