Should you kiss on a first date?
Experts answer some of our biggest dating and relationship questions about kissing on first dates and beyond.
The conversation flowed easily and there was an undeniable spark.
But, the question still remains: should you kiss on a first date?
Dont overthink it, but remain aware enough to read their cues.
Should you kiss on a first date?
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Should you kiss on a first date?
Unfortunately, theres not a clear-cut answer.
No matter which choice you make, theres no right or wrong answer.
How was the conversation?
Did it flow naturally?
Is there a mutual sense of attraction?
Whats more, Baratz suggests that if youre really unsure, you might ask your date about their preferences.
Communication is always a good idea, he notes.
Is it typical to kiss on the first date?
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The question of whether its normal to kiss on a first date varies from situation to situation.
(Think: are a lot of people around, do you have any privacy, etc.)
I think the most important thing is that youre getting emotionally intimate before you get physically intimate.
Dr. Wendy Walsh, psychology professor
Is it a bad first date if you dont kiss?
Okay, so you had a date and the person you went with didnt kiss you.
Youre probably asking yourself if it was a bad date, and thats totally fair.
Fear not, becauseDr.
Wendy Walsh, psychology professor, and relationship expert withDatingAdvice.comsays definitely not!
Of course, if youre looking for a short-term relationship, a first-date kiss is a great sign!
In other words, if you didnt get a kiss, dont overthing it.
Chances are, that just might be a good thing.
How long should you date before you kiss?
In terms of kissing timelines, theres no hard and fast rule.
We are not wired to have sex with strangers.
Meeting a stranger and kissing them can be a terrifying experience on a deep biological level.
(Yes, thats what kissing is!)
Look for signs of mutual interest and comfort.
Plus, this might make the first kiss more passionate.
How to go in for a first kiss
1.
Work through the nerves
Its normal to be nervous before a first kissitisa first kiss after all!
Luckily, theres a way to make it less nerve-racking.
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2.
Are they leaning towards you?
Are they looking into your eyes?
Do they seem to be looking at your lips?
These nonverbal communication cues can tell you if someone is attracted to you and ultimately wants to kiss you.
Ask for consent
Before kissing someone, its important to ask for consent.
Even if someone seems interested, they might not want to kiss on a first date.
And, that doesnt mean they dont like youit might just mean they have different boundaries or preferences.
Keep it simple
As they say, less is more.
Start with a slow kiss, Koch says.
Try not to start passionately.
The first kiss should be a tease of what is to come.
Its best not to take things too far here.
Focus on the positive feelings and the excitement of the experience rather than any anxiety or expectations.
What percentage of first dates end with a kiss?
Wondering how many people are getting smooched after a first date?
Theres also no hard and fast data here but, there are some things to consider.
The percentage of first dates that end with a kiss depends on the culture youre in, explains Koch.
If youre in a place like France, there will likely be kissing involved on a first date.
In America, its estimated that a little over half of all first dates end in a kiss.
Essentially, it all depends on preference.
Did I mess up by not kissing on my first date?
The key is that both you and your date feel comfortable and respected.
Not to mention, there are other ways to show someone youre interested in them without kissing them.
Is it normal if the first kiss is bad?
Okay, so you went in for the kiss and it was bad.
Its perfectly normal for a first kiss to be bad, says Koch.
For more background, a clinical study published in 2023 titledCan a Kiss Conquer All?
As for what you’re free to take from this?
Some people hold the first kiss in high regard, which can make it all that more nerve-racking.
The more comfortable you two become, the better the kissing will be.
Remember, dating should be fun!
Kiss your worries goodbyethe right person is out there.
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