But theres a portion of pleasure-seekers who dont just respond to praise with their cheeks, butalltheir erogenous zones.
Someone with a praise kink, specifically, gets off on receiving, well,praise.
It is more than just a nice feeling one gets when being complimented, she says.
(Take abreeding kinkor any of thepower play dynamics of BDSM, for example.)
But that also means that kink is highly subjective.
And contrary to popular belief, it doesnt have to be something incredibly niche, says Hodder-Shipp.
sex educator and founder of Sssh.com
Kinky is really in the eye of the beholder.
Hodder-Shipp also adds that theres a difference between enjoying an experience and having a kink.
This nuance applies to praise, too.
Someone can enjoy receiving (or giving) praise in bed without identifying as having a praise kink.
And even among those who do have a praise kink, the way it manifests can vary.
Some people need praise in bed to experience pleasureand without it, they cant orgasm.
It depends on the person.
What are some praise kink examples?
The praise doesnt necessarily need to be verbal, either, says Deysach.
sex educator and founder of Sssh.com
Is a praise kink part of BDSM?
However its also possible to enjoy and satisfy a praise kink in the absence of a power dynamic.
Take, for example, the commonly used phrases, Good boy and Good girl.
Why do people have a praise kink?
There are a number of different reasons someone might enjoy praise during play, says Stewart.
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It feels nice to be seen, recognized, and be made to feel special, says Hodder-Shipp.
Whats more, the human brain isphysiologically designedto respond favorably to compliments.
Compliments flood our brains with oxytocin, a feel-good bonding hormone, says Stewart.
And it doesnt necessarily mean anything about how the person interacts with praise outside the bedroom, either.
How to explore whether you have a praise kink
1.
Noodle on your past sexual experiences
Can you remember a time when you were complimented during sex?
Next, see if you’re able to remember a time when youwerentcomplimented during sex.
Can you have what you think of as hot, awesome sex without compliments?
If not, then it may be a kink, she says.
Ask yourself: Do I enjoy power play?
Rowntree offers some questions that may help you pinpoint a potential interest in power play:
3.
Think about what kind of praise lights you up, if any, says Hodder-Shipp.
When youre exploring, observe the particular context of any praise that gets you going.
Perhaps its in a fantasy setting or when someone receives praise from a partner whos dominating them.
This could clue you into a potential praise kink and how you might explore it with a partner.
Request praise, and see how it feels!
Trust, it doesnt have to be an awkward one!
For example: I really loved it when you called me your good girl when we had sex.
Can I ask you to use that term again next time we have sex?
Try it out via text
Maybe youre not currently having IRL intercourse.
Maybe youre not sleeping with someone you feel comfortable exploring a possible kink with.
Regardless, you might also explore whether you have a praise kink viasexting, according to Rowntree.
You could also request that a specific phrase be used only for this specific phone sex session.
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