Its pleasurable both physically (for both partners)andmentally.
But as for how to peg?
Its not as intimidating as it may seem youll just need to have some open convos first.
Not to mention, pegging also taps into mental stimulation that many couples find exciting.
Theres [also] the role reversal for couples where the penetrator becomes the penetratee and vice versa.
It can be very exciting to learn new ways to move and explore your body sexually, she adds.
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Read on for more on exactly how to peg someone.
What is pegging?
Traditionally, it refers to when a woman penetrates a man.
Where does the term pegging come from?
Why some people enjoy pegging
1.
Its usually different from other orgasms.
You know how when you first start something new its terrifying until you do it?
Its just like that with pegging.
If you might, though, Sinclair recommends going to a sex toy shop.
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Heres what to put on your list for how to peg someone.
(Note: bigger is not better!)
Other features to prioritize: body-safe silicone, a phthalate-free label, and something smooth in texture.
Also, avoid dildos that have bulbous heads, says White.
The narrower the tip, the easier the entry.
And depending on the store you visit, you might be able to try on different options.
The anus doesnt self-lubricate, so lube is just as important here as the actual dildo and harness.
What is The Missionary Sex Position?
Tips for communication during pegging
As with all sex things, consent and communication are key.
Pegging requires communication before, during, and after, says Hewitt.
And keep the communication flowing the entire time.
If you better take a break, know that is perfectly fine.
Not every day is an anal day and thats okay!
How to peg
While pegging sounds simple in theory we get it.
There can still be a lot of questions.
For that, we asked the experts to share their most specific tips on how to peg someone.
Talk about it firstin-depth
And by in-depth, we meanin-depth.
Have a real conversation about what youre hoping to experience, says Sinclair.
What positions do you want to try?
Do research together to figure it out if you dont know, suggests Sinclair.
This is one area you do not want to get a cut.
Set the mood
When the time comes, keep things relaxed, says Herzog.
Have your favorite music in the background, dim the lights whatever makes you both comfortable, she adds.
Take things slow, then even slower
You cant go from zero to dildo, says Sinclair.
Start with a finger (and then two fingers) or a butt plug.
Mess > anal pain.
This allows for kissing and eye-contact (hello, intimacy).
A spooning position works as well, with both people lying on their side, facing the same direction.
Adding asex pillowunder the peggees hips may also be helpful here for finding the right angle.
Doing so will make penetration a lot easier, she notes.
And just a reminder: Being the pegger doesnt mean always being the one in control.
This will help your partner feel more comfortable with something that might have felt scary, says White.
Basically, pleasure is contagiousso lean in.
Doing so means they can control the speed and depth of the thrusts while they get used to it.
Take careliterallywith the cleanup
Once youre done, slide out slowly while communicating with your partner what youre doing.
If you use the right amount of lube, it will probably slide right out.
But you might also add more, says Sinclair.
Once its out, practice after-care.
Get a warm washcloth.
Maybe wrap the dildo in a towel and put it off to the side.
Check in with how your partner is feeling.
Spice things up
Tried?
Great, now spice things up with different or additional accessories.
Just remember the golden rule of pegging: communicate, communicate, communicate, says Lewis.
This is usually triggered by inadequate lubrication causing tears or anal fissures in the delicate anal tissues.
Or, not enough warming up of the body before penetration resulting in tight muscles.
Therefore, your best bet is to use lots of lubricant and foreplay.
If something hurts, stop.
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